Toddler Birthday Parties (ages 2-4)

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If this is the first page you've landed on, let me give you a quick introduction. I'm Matt James, a professional party planner, and the purpose of this site is to show you the most creative way you can use regular, shop-bought party supplies that can be found in most stores. Not everyone has the craft skills of Martha Stewart or the time to spend several days with a glue gun making things from scratch. It's fine to use shop-bought decorations and supplies—as long as you choose them carefully and know the best way to put them all together. So I'll share a few simple tips and trade secrets that anyone can use to add some creative touches to your party—whatever your budget.

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Toddler Birthday Parties

One general tip for all toddler birthday parties is that although it's traditional to have some gift-opening time, try to avoid a big fanfare for this age group as it can be difficult for other kids to understand why they’re not getting presents.

You might want to consider leaving the present opening until later, after the party has finished. This can create some nice family time after all the guests have gone home. Or, if you do want to open them during the party, maybe do it towards the end and make sure that’s when the other kids are given their goody bags.

Tips for 2 year olds

Schedule toddler birthday parties around nap times—late morning or late afternoon work well.

Keep numbers small as 2 year olds can be easily overwhelmed by too many people or too much excitement, so they quickly become exhausted and then the tears start.

Don’t make the party too structured—save that for when they’re a bit older. 2 year olds tend to get a bit overwhelmed when you try to entertain them too much. Keep everything loose and fluid. They often just want to have fun (the messier the better) so opt for lots of free playtime.

Forget about laying on classic party games and think more arts and crafts type activities. Set out plenty of things for them to play with such as Play-Doh, large bouncy balls, colouring, blowing bubbles and finger painting. And let them make a little bit of noise with some blow-outs.

It’s OK to mix in some moments when they all do something together—such as singing songs or dancing games (Hokey Pokey, etc)—but don’t work out a schedule for the entire party.

toddler girl with birthday cake

toddler boy with party hat and balloons

Tips for 3 Year olds

By 3 years old confidence has increased and they start becoming more sociable, so it’s good to introduce a bit more structure by including a few more games and activities.

Some parents think about getting a children’s entertainer to do puppet shows, magic, or balloon modelling. I personally feel that activities are always more enjoyable for kids than entertainment. (Even with professional parties for adults, there’s been a huge shift in recent years towards interactivity. 'Experiential' has become the new buzz word. People want to do rather than watch. And this applies to kids too. So think about simple activities such as cookie decorating, pizza making, painting, or making their own party hats.

Games are also good for this age—simple things like musical statues or Piñatas (get the pull string ones rather than the ones you have to hit)—nothing too competitive though. Let everyone win something.

Treasure hunts are also a good way to keep kids amused at this age—you could use this as a way for them to find their goody bags.

Tips for 4 Year Olds

By this age you can start to structure the party a lot more.

4 year olds will have plenty of energy, so think about including more physical activities—especially things that will have them running around and doing things—rather than sitting down. Replacing musical statues with musical chairs is a good example, or see who can bounce a balloon in the air for longest using only their heads. Organize dress-up games by putting out a pile of clothes, splitting them into teams, and having them race to see who can put them all on first.

They don’t all have to be physical activities. A great game for this age group, is to put different objects into bags and have them take turns to reach in and identify the object just by touch. Don’t forget to include a range of different textures and plenty of slimy, gooey, horrible things that 4 year olds love.

toddler girls with party blow outs

Toddler Birthday Party Invitations

Check out my seperate page of Kids Birthday Party Invitations for tips and suggestions.

personalized birthday girl toddler photo invitation
3rd birthday snow woodland invitation
turning 4 personalized photo invitation
personalized cartoon toddler birthday invitation

Toddler Birthday Party Drinks

Check out my other page of Party Drink Ideas which includes simple styling & presentation tips to make your party drinks look more professional.

party drink in milk bottles
fruit name party drink stirrers
party drinks
personalized drinks straws

Toddler Birthday Dessert Table Ideas

I always think it’s a good idea to concentrate the majority of your party decorations around a dessert/buffet table/food station. This will create a focal point in the room. Decorations often have to compete with existing room decor so they can get a bit lost if spread too thinly. I think you’re far better off creating one really well themed feature wall—with great food presentation & styling—that everyone’s eye will be drawn to. You can then use a few general decorations around the rest of the room to tie everything together. Check out my other page of Dessert Table Ideas which has lots of different ideas for backdrops, along with tips and suggestions for how best to construct, support, display, or hang them.

1st birthday dessert table
balloon dessert buffet table backdrop
baby shower dessert table
balloon dessert  buffet table backdro

Toddler Birthday Party Themes

Click on any of the toddler birthday party themes below for complete party plans including ideas for invitations, food & drink, decorations, and party favors.

alice in wonderland party theme
baseball party theme
bowling party theme
carnival party theme
dinosaur party theme
elmo party theme
hello kitty party theme
princess party theme
sesame street party theme
star wars party theme
superheros party theme
pirate party theme

Check out more toddler birthday party themes here, such as the ones below.

circus theme
you are my sunshine theme
robots theme
the world awaits party theme
little man party theme
Pink Mustache party theme
construction party theme
superhero party theme
magic party theme
space alien party theme
ahoy nautical party theme
woodland creatures party theme
little cowboy party theme
little cowgirl party theme
farm animals party theme
A is for alphabet party theme
mermaid theme
girl puppy dog party theme

Check out more toddler birthday party themes here, such as the ones below.

peppa pig party theme
police theme
whale party theme
all aboard train party theme
duckie party theme
cat party theme
up up and away party theme
wish upon a star party theme
unicorn party theme
personalized teddy bear party theme
personalized all aboard train party theme
very hungry caterpillar party theme
magic party theme
animals party theme
whale party theme

Toddler Birthday Party Food

Check out my Pinterest boards for birthday party food ideas and recipes, including sweet and savory ideas both hot and cold. Remember, for a toddler birthday party you'll be catering mainly to adult friends and family.

mini mac & cheese
veggie shooters
caramel apple grape poppers

Food Presentation & Styling

Ever wonder why your own party food never ends up looking anything like the inspiration you found on Pinterest? Check out my Buffet Table Ideas page for a few simple food styling and presentation tips to give party food a professional look.

party food presentation ideas
buffet table styling & presentation
dessert table food display
buffet table styling & presentation

Toddler Birthday Cake Toppers

These silhouette style cake toppers are a easy way to personalize a birthday cake. There are lots of different styles and designs available, including ones that incorporate the birthday boy / girls's name with their favorite sports or hobbies, or you can go for a more general topper. See the full range here. Alternatively, I love these large face cake toppers (below far right), that are made from a photo of the birthday boy / girl. Check out other examples here.

little man birthday cake topper
personalized photo cake topper
two cute cake topper
custom photo cake topper

Alternatively, you can easily create a beautiful photo cake, like the one below left, by using these custom edible picture icing sheets which you can then apply to any cake. Alternatively, apply them to cupcakes, cookies, or cake pops, as in the example below center. Check out the icing sheets here — just upload your photos and they'll be mailed to you.

photo birthday cake
Photo: Cake Decor
edible photo icing sheets
custom edible picture icing sheets

Cupcake Toppers

Alternatively, you can use these smaller photo face cupcake toppers. Check them out here.

baby photo cupcake toppers
1st birthday party photo cupcake toppers
baby photo cupcake toppers
little man tophat photo cupcake toppers

Custom Cookies & Cutters

What better way to add a cute personal touch to a 1st birthday party than with these custom face cookie cutters made from a photo of the birthday boy or girl! As well as baking a batch of cookies, you could also try using them on sandwiches, cheese slices, or fruits such as watermelon. Alternatively, pop them into celophane bags and give them out as party favors. Check them out here.

custom face cookie cutters
custom face cookie cutters

Alternatively, if you're not one for baking you can buy these cartoon-style cookies made from a photo of the birthday boy / girl. Check them out here.

custom cartoon face portrait cookies
custom cartoon face portrait cookies
custom cartoon face portrait cookies

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About Matt James

Matt James is a professional event planner and owner of event agency Left Field Productions, which has produced events for Elton John, Sarah Jessica Parker, Kevin Spacey, Stella McCartney, David LaChapelle, John Waters, and Elvis Costello & Diana Krall. Since 2004, Left Field Productions has won 30 industry awards for excellence including Production Company of the Year. Matt is the author of the book Become an Event Planner: Secrets for Getting Hired from Employers, Recruiters, and Event Professionals.

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